Contemplative Dating

                     Is online dating right for me?  Why can’t I find the right person?  Why do I always end up with a partner who is so needy?… so distant?   If God wants me to love, why does he make it so hard?  Does he want me to be single? The world of modern romance is...
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The Imago Dialogue: Empathy (Step 3)

Over the month of June, I will provide a series of blogs on the Imago Dialogue.  The first blog will introduce the dialogue, and the following three will detail its steps – mirroring, validation, and empathy.  The dialogue is a powerful communication tool that can transform your...
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The Imago Dialogue: Validation (Step 2)

Over the month of June, I will provide a series of blogs on the Imago Dialogue.  The first blog will introduce the dialogue, and the following three will detail its steps – mirroring, validation, and empathy.  The dialogue is a powerful communication tool that can transform your...
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The Imago Dialogue: Mirroring (Step 1)

Over the month of June, I will provide a series of blogs on the Imago Dialogue.  The first blog will introduce the dialogue, and the following three will detail its steps – mirroring, validation, and empathy.  The dialogue is a powerful communication tool that can transform your...
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The Imago Dialogue: Ping Pong & Egg Toss

Over the month of June, I will provide a series of blogs on the Imago Dialogue.  The first blog will introduce the dialogue, and the following three will detail its steps – mirroring, validation, and empathy.  The dialogue is a powerful communication tool that can transform your...
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Marriage Preparation Goes Until Your Fifth Anniversary

Marriage preparation is too often thought of as a list of things to do in order to walk down the aisle.   The reality is the day of your wedding is not an ending, but a beginning.   So you’re preparing not just for a day of great celebration but for a lifetime together.   Sadly,...
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Four Questions to Start Your Year

The holiday lights have been taken down.  The ball has dropped and Mariah Carey has, well, performed.  The Christmas season is over.  Even the college football bowl games are done.   This can only mean one thing – the new year is officially upon us.  It’s time then to separate...
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Technoference & Connectology

“When you invent the ship, you also invent the shipwreck.” – Paul Virilo For all the advances in technology that gives us more ways to communicate, we have never been more alone.  The technology itself is wonderful, yet it can also be very isolating.  The challenge becomes to use...
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Radical Acceptance

In The Bridge of Spies, American lawyer James B. Donovan (Tom Hanks) is recruited to defend captured Russian spy, Rudolf Abel (Mark Rylance).  At a downturn in the trial which could send Abel to the electric chair, and seeing Abel’s ever-present calm demeanor, Donovan turns to...
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Saying “Thank You” is key to a happy marriage

We often hear the wisdom to “Simplify.”  Well here’s one simple practice to put into your Valentine’s Day gift bag. In Imago, expressions of appreciation are an important part of the work.  Couple sessions typically begin and end with such expressions...
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