“Communication is an art learned in moments of peace to be practiced in moments of difficulty.”
–  Pope Francis

The number one reason that people seek out couple therapy is poor communication.  This is probably not a surprise.  Whether it’s a couple or a country, issues tend to become polarized, communication breaks down and we hurt one another.  If we know this, doesn’t it make sense to learn the essential tools of communication before any of this happens?

The Imago Dialogue is a transformational communication tool to strengthen and deepen relationships.  It also helps couples move from conflict to connection.  It is predicated upon safety so that the communication can get beneath the surface to where the core of the issues lies.  It has three steps:

Mirroring:  Reflecting back the other’s message without editing in order to convey your focused attention and desire to listen.  “Let me see if I’ve got it, you said…”
Validation:  Honoring the other person’s perspective, especially when it might be different than yours.  “I’m following you.  You make sense, and what makes sense is…”
Empathy:  Entering into the other person’s world, to connect with their feelings.  “I imagine this leaves you feeling…”

Learn the Imago dialogue and more at my next Start Right, Stay Connected workshop on June 29.  Start Right Stay Connected is designed to provide committed, engaged and newly married couples the knowledge and skills to build a great marriage.  Click HERE for more info.  Registration closes soon!!!